When I don't fully acknowledge that I am in an incapable state, I often put the cart before the horse. Recently, that means I have been contemplating "Intention, Decision, Action" when I should have been more honestly grappling with "Anxiety and Coping Vs. Intention, Decision, Action".
It has not been taking very much to put me into the teeth of anxiety, and I waste my day with coping mechanisms, like web surfing and being an indulgent nurse-maid to my own sinus headaches.
Serendipitously, the Adam Carolla Podcast with Marc Maron ended with a very interesting segment.
There was a caller who asked the basic question of "How do you get off your ass and do what you are supposed to do?"
Adam approached the problem as "this is a skill I don't yet possess, and I will develop it by continually challenging myself".
So, using that mentality, I should apply that to "Anxiety and Coping Vs. Intention, Decision, Action".
Breaking it down a bit:
* Acceptance of the anxiety I feel - even to the point of taking time to experience the full depth of it, so that I waste no energy on a persistent draining state of fruitless avoidance.
Acceptance and commitment therapy
ACT commonly employs six core principles to help clients develop psychological flexibility:
- Accept your reactions and be present
- Choose a valued direction
- Take action
- Cognitive de-fusion: Learning to perceive thoughts, images, emotions, and memories as what they are, not what they appear to be.
- Acceptance: Allowing them to come and go without struggling with them.
- Contact with the present moment: Awareness of the here and now, experienced with openness, interest, and receptiveness.
- Observing the self: Accessing a transcendent sense of self, a continuity of consciousness which is changing.
- Values: Discovering what is most important to one's true self.
- Committed action: Setting goals according to values and carrying them out responsibly.
* practicing the skill of dialing down the anxiety level
* practicing the skill of interrupting the coping habitual wasteful activities
* practicing the skill of substituting in "Intention, Decision, Action"